You are in love with your ears and want nothing more than to continue with your new flame together. After all, your current relationship can not be saved anymore, so why should you stay? But is it wise to switch from one relationship to another? Before signing up on any matrimony website, perhaps it is wise to ask yourself the following things before you put your current partner aside.
DO YOU KNOW YOUR NEW LOVER WELL ENOUGH?
Nobody is perfect, but if you are completely in the amorous stage, you see everything through pink glasses. Everything the other does, you find beautiful, fun and great. You are not yet able to see your relationship realistically. Everything will change over time and routine will sneak into the relationship. And do not forget: your lover knows that you are married and takes part in the lies. So how honest is he?
HOW REAL IS THE RELATIONSHIP?
Most affairs take place in secret. Matrimonial websites and dating apps are commonly used for second marriages. Either you met on any matrimony site or dating app, it is better to met each other before making any decision. That is why it is easy for both of you to show your best side in the short time you see each other. Obviously, there’s nothing from the outside world could affect your relationship. If your relationship comes into the public domain, the fantasy relationship will become a part of the real world, including all the boring and routine aspects.
ARE YOU OBJECTIVE ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE?
Your marriage will probably pale in that exciting affair. In that case, it is easy to focus on what is missing on your love life and perhaps difficult to see the positive aspects of both your marriage and your spouse. This does not mean that they are not there. Try looking at the positive things of your current relationship. Why did you fall in love with this man? Why are you both getting married?
ARE YOU HONEST ABOUT YOUR SHARE IN MARRIAGE?
If you only look at the mistakes of your husband, chances are that you will continue to make the same mistakes in a subsequent relationship . If you start an affair because you have problems in your marriage, that is of course your own choice. But think about why you made that choice to be strange.
IS YOUR HAPPINESS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR CHILDREN?
If you leave your partner, he will find that terrible. As an adult man he will eventually be able to deal with it, but if you leave a marriage then you are (usually) not the only one. Also, your children steps, as it were from the marriage. They want nothing more than that you are happy, but they do not usually realize how much pain they can do themselves.
ARE YOU PREPARED FOR THE REACTION OF FAMILY AND FRIENDS?
You actually assume that those who are closest to you have the best idea, but this is not always the case when it comes to an affair. It can sometimes become a whole thing before your new partner is accepted.
A divorce can cause a break with those with whom you are attached. And if there is unfaithfulness in the game then it can become a laughter for you and your lover. At first it can only strengthen your bond, but in the end it can also lead to disgust and distance.